I was watching Ruby last night on the Style network- anybody familiar with this show?? I've just started watching it. There are so many “fat people shows” nowadays- who can keep up? In fact, I plan on highlighting my favs in an upcoming entry, but for now let me give you the skinny (pun intended) on Ruby.
Ruby is a seven hundred-plus pound woman with a reality TV show showcasing her struggle to lose weight. She has elected diet and exercise over surgery after receiving news that her life was in serious danger. She is a southern belle who is socially well connected and prides herself on leading a very full life despite her size.
In this week's episode, Ruby droans on about a failed relationship with a guy named Denny. Despite breaking up nearly ten years ago, they remain friends even though she's never gotten over the the relationship ending as a result of her weight problem. She rehashes the details of their demise, over and over again, and appears to be as angry as the day it happened. According to her, during their eight and a half year relationship he pleaded for her not to be a ten, but to lose enough weight so they could do things together. He offered to help her with that, but eventually out of frustration, he started to see other people. Ruby labeled him a cheater, even though she admits the relationship ended prior to him dating other people.
As much as I can relate to the double standards and unfair hurt bestowed upon an overweight woman in a relationship, I found myself yelling at the TV, “get over it!” Who the h*ll still talks about a relationship that ended ten years ago?! Furthermore, if this break-up was sooo devastating that you still talk about it, and the guy is single, has remained your friend, and still holds to the fact that your weight was the obstacle preventing you from getting married, then holy sh*t, “lose the weight already!” I'm not saying that anybody can or should lose weight for anyone other than themselves, but I'm saying, if he means enough for you to still be talking about this than just lose the damn weight already! (I laugh as the words come tumbling out my mouth.)
Apparently, she has not been in a relationship since and has bellyached about how bad a guy he is- forcing him to admit on camera that he hurt her, cheated on her, etc. Why would you waste ten years of your life on that?!! Talk about stuck on stupid! Why not find a new guy! Or do what you have to in order to win him back. Whatever! But don't waste TEN years of your life obsessing about a relationship that didn't work out all the while not fixing the problem nor allowing yourself to come into a new relationship!
As I shouted at the television set I could feel my own words reverberating back at me! Why would a normal human being make their life so much more difficult; forgoing relationships, marriage, kids, certain social activities, job opportunities, etc. just for food! Hmmm..........good question! I guess that's what addiction does. Once again, it got me to thinking about all the moments I had missed out on in life in the name of being fat! I started reminiscing about romantic relationships, including the one I'm in right now. Like Ruby, how much of a role has my weight played in my relationships?? I began to examine my previous loves and look forward to sharing my discoveries with you tomorrow.
"How soon 'not now' becomes 'never'. -Martin Luther
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