CREATE AN ALTAR EGO

People are forever asking me where I get my confidence from, my self-esteem.  I guess they aren't used to someone weighing 300 pounds and still feeling pretty good about themselves- LOL.  After all, society has made sure that fat people are viewed as near worthless.  If you are a man, probably the worse thing your wife or girlfriend could be is overweight.  No street cred for nailin' the fat chick!  She'd be better off to have two heads.  I think trannies are more accepted in the male arena then a fat girl is.  It's not just a male thing either, because sadly, women say it about other women too!  "Fat and smelly," "Fat and lazy," "Fat b*tch."  I mean let's be honest, we never really hear fat teamed up with any good adjectives.  So if like me, you've had a lifelong battle with weight, it can be hard to preserve one's self-worth.

I think I am just a confident person at heart.  I come from pretty gutsy people and I think I have always been very good at knowing exactly who I am.  Knowing, for instance, that big or small, I am the exact same person!  Still, it can get tough sometimes, especially if you are the type of person who holds yourself to some pretty high standards.  So I'll let you in on a little secret that has always helped me...create an altar ego!  Sometimes the best way to feel good about who you are in the moment, is to think of yourself as who you'd most like to be.  If you could be the most perfect "you," what would that look like...??  How does that person think?  What is that person known for?  Think about how you would want to be described by an audience: fierce, fashionable, sexy, daring, smart, then apply it to your thinking.

I honestly believe celebrities and superstars get lucky.  They have one big break and what fuels the rest of their fame is the belief that they ARE something great.  It's like writers are expected to have the next great novel, actors- the next best film, so they begin to expect it of themselves because of all the feedback they've gotten from society.  “Riveting, fantastical.”  I think they begin to think of themselves as riveting and fantastical!  You can have all the talent and beauty in the world, but sometimes the hardest part is believing that you do!  Be your own fan!  Don't wait for your first novel or big break.  Think of yourself that way now!!  Build the field of dreams in your life and the rest will come.  Think I'm crazy?  Recording artist Beyonce released an album called, “I AM Sasha Fierce.”  She's a pop superstar for God's sake and even she felt the need to create an altar-ego for herself!

In Latin, alter ego means "the second I."  This is your homework assignment for today- to begin thinking about your second "I."  I want you to think about all the characteristics you value.  All the good things about yourself, as well as, the attributes that are yet to come.  Concentrate on how you see yourself when you are at your most fabulous.  Jot down adjectives that you would like to see in print if Hollywood wrote a review about you.  Think about your favorite celebrity or the person you admire most in life, then tune in tomorrow for tips on how to construct the perfect altar-ego.

"I am indeed a king, because I know how to rule myself." -Pietro Aretino